A Story About Gay Fathers In America

DADDY & PAPA is a documentary that explores the personal, cultural and political ramifications of the growing number of gay men who are making a decision that is at once traditional and revolutionary: to become dads. Taking viewers inside four gay male families, DADDY & PAPA explores the many unique issues that these families face: the ambiguous place of interracial families in America; the wonder and precariousness of surrogacy and adoption; the complexities of marriage and divorce within the gay community; and the legality of gay parenthood. DADDY & PAPA also explores the ways that these families resemble others as the dads take on the daily joys and struggles of raising healthy and happy children. To learn more, or to order a video, please visit http://www.daddyandpapa.com/

We're Active!

DEFINITION OF "ACTIVE"
~Being in physical motion: active fish in the aquarium.
~Functioning or capable of functioning.
~Marked by energetic activity; busy: active stock and bond markets; spent an active day sightseeing.
~Being in a state of action; not quiescent: active hostilities along the border.
~Currently in use or effect: an active membership.
~Openly acknowledged or expressed: an active dislike of the new neighbors.
~One Step Closer To Starting Our Family

Today is the "official" day of our ACTIVE status. Now it's time to shop for car seats :) Matching ones, of course!

Year of the Rat, Month of the Monkey, Day of the Dragon (08/08/08)

On this day of great celebration and joy, the eight day of the eight month, on the eight year of the century, in the state of California, we spoke the words and performed the legal rites which united our lives and affirmed our love.

On this day, we pledged to honor our vibrant love, to nurture and protect it. Our lives enriched by our unique traditions, will embody trust, constancy and compromise. We will cherish each other, meeting life's trials with quiet strength and courage, and embrace life's blessings with wonder, joy and laughter. We will grow as individuals and delight in an elegant freedom borne from mutual respect. May there be peace in our home, may we be blessed with good fortune, health and happiness and may our devotion to each other ennoble us.

Yours before we met, mine before we touched, ever lasting from the start...Our love is meant to be.

Now Calling Couple "A058"

Today Chris and I headed to San Francisco's City Hall to obtain our marriage license. It was the most incredible experience ever. Our appointment time was set for 11:30 a.m., and we were early, of course. As we walked into the elegantly restored historic landmark, we were surrounded by many couples - some who had just taken their vows, and others who were about to embark on their dual journey.

Once we were directed to the clerks office, by a same-sex couple that just got married, we took our application and number - A058 - and waited in line. Within minutes we were called to the front desk and greeted by one of the friendliest city empoyees ever. After reviewing our application, and looking our our drivers licenses, she informed us that we were the first couple from Pennsylvania to get married in San Francisco. I guess that makes us "Keystone Pioneers" :)

Here is a picture she took of us being sworn in.